Yesterday I taught a class about ‘feedback’ and the difference between offering something constructive, sneakily (or sometimes not so sneakily) giving a backhanded compliment, and outright tearing someone down. People who practice the latter two, often get in plenty of practice by doing it to themselves. The smallest criticisms about weight, skin, makeup ect… accumulate to make a much bigger and long lasting impact. “I am…” — two of the most powerful words in the English language. Be careful how you use them.
After class, a student hugged me and told me it was just what she needed to hear, and informed me that she was also a yoga teacher. In fact, she’s leading her first ever retreat in Greece this year so she’s soaking up as much yoga as she can before she goes there. We got to talking, and I told her about Habibi. She says she too started a skin care company (Organic Girlfriend) and she’s so excited! We started yapping about quality control and packaging and messaging and what not… and she’s surprised that we’re talking about it and that I’m excited for her, and (now) following her on Facebook and Instagram.
We have GOT to stop tearing each other down. We have to stop stealing from each other and taking credit for things that we learned from colleagues. We have to stop being envious, and bitter, and crappy to each other… and instead uplift each other in abundance and love. Seriously. I firmly support Scentsational Soaps, Gavin Luxe, Curlbox and a whole host of other companies whose owners I know and love. There is room for all of us. Unless it’s a legal/copyright infringement issue, there is no reason to be negative about anyone trying to do something that you enjoy doing yourself.
Before she left, we brainstormed a hashtag for her company (#OGBody. Just brilliant). I was honored to meet her, and I can’t wait to see what she brings to the market.
The world is harsh enough without us adding to it with words and actions against ourselves, and against others. Hold space for those you love and respect, and watch them grow and thrive. Be happy… genuinely happy for them. Support yourself, support your sisters (and brothers), and affect change: one smile, one hug, and one pom-pom shake at a time.